It’s amazing how this, which is made up of a few letters, is able to have such great effect; positively or negatively in one’s life.
I would say that for everyone, and for you reading this, we all have been at the receiving end of this – words.
I was reading a book and one of the chapters focused on the effect of words in a relationship. And I couldn’t help but reflect on this too. I have been a victim of this in some way and I had some of these words become ghosts from times past, as it kept on taunting my mind for a long time.
All thanks to God I am able to get past a lot of these. And confessing God’s words when it rages in my thoughts has really helped me a lot.
So before I share the anchor scripture that got me through it. I would want us to reflect on this verse:
Do not let unwholesome [foul, profane, worthless, vulgar] words ever come out of your mouth, but only such speech as is good for building up others, according to the need and the occasion, so that it will be a blessing to those who hear [you speak].
Ephesians 4:29 (AMP)
I hope we read this verse, meditatively. I know a lot of us have erred in time past but it’s never too late to try again. We can learn to breathe through a heated argument and also ask for the help of the Holy Spirit to enable us to speak graceful and wholesome words always.
Don’t leave a lasting mark in that heart just because you belong to the sect of people that believe in “Let me say it how it is”. Imagine if Christ’s response on the cross was to call us a bunch of sinners; a crowd of unfaithful men and women or even the disloyal disciples?. Which in reality, was the case. 😪
But rather Jesus’ approach was this:
And Jesus was saying, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” And they cast lots, dividing His clothes among themselves.
Luke 23:34 (AMP)
He prayed!. Like who does that?.
And I would say that defined the perspective of His own kind of love. Hope we know He was God in flesh, so He could have acted in response to all the betrayals, but rather, He chose to pray for us. 😪
If you and I have chosen the path of faith by confessing Christ and believing in Him. Then our mouth should be tamed. Really, it should!. Because we have Him as our helper guiding us in all truth.
Don’t be part of the people who speak their mind all the time, not minding if it will cause more harm than good. Only a fool does that and that is so not in my words, it’s in the Bible. 👇
Reference text:
A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back.
Proverbs 29:11 (NKJV)
I know a lot of us still battle with words from our past or even those from the present. Ghosts from times past I call it. I remember these words lived in my mind for years – “you are useless”. And some others, God has been rooting out of my system. All I know is I chose and will continually choose to bring these words in subjection to His. And yes, it took me a while to get past it, but I didn’t stop telling myself my new language. Which is Christ’s words for me? And that for me is the only thing that defines me.
I didn’t get to this place in a day. Sometimes, regardless of the many voices, I still choose to do what I need to do on some days. I take it a day at a time as He is teaching me to.
So back to the verse He used as an anchor in my word crises:
We are destroying sophisticated arguments and every exalted and proud thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought and purpose captive to the obedience of Christ,
2 Corinthians 10:5 (AMP)
And,
We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ. Our tools are ready at hand for clearing the ground of every obstruction and building lives of obedience into maturity.
2 Corinthians 10:5 (MSG)
I had to break down this verse as I applied it to my situation. And then I started confessing my new identity in Christ Jesus. Because no matter what, God’s words over me are still what holds me and have made me. Not anyone’s.
I pray that we will all find the grace to overcome through God’s words and constantly embrace our new, in Christ Jesus. 🙏
No matter what anyone has said to you – close or not. That is so not you. Our only reality is God’s word. And yes, you may not even be near it presently, that is, seeing the physical manifestation of His words in you, but you can get there. If only you would believe His words in your life!.
So you may have been told “you are no good” or “you don’t matter” or “you are always wrong”, etc. I chose these examples randomly as led to. Whatever the negative word that has been hauled at you or is still being rung in your ears every single time. That is not you!.
You are Christ’s and the only thing you can be is Him – God’s words. (John. 1:1)
Blessings. 🙏
Do have a calm new week. 🤗
🌸#HCCounsels# 💮
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Wise words!
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Thank you, ma’am. 🤗
Wishing you a blessed day today. 🤗
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You too and thanks
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You are welcome. 🤗
Thanks. 🙂
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A beautiful and powerful post. Words have so much power and yours help us all become better people. Thank you and take care.
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Bless God. 🙌😊
Thank you so much, sir. 🤗
Yes, I affirm.
Smiles. 😊
You are welcome. I will do. 🙂
Do take care and wishing you a great day. 🙏
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My goodness I am in that age where I think I can say anything because I am older. Your post, from one so young has smote my heart. Keep pouring out wisdom such as this as we all, no matter our age need to be reminded of truth.
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Smiles. I am really glad to know it did. 🤗
Thank you so much, ma’am. I appreciate your sincere and kind comment. ❤🤗
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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Great post little sister. Some words I want to say to you are:
You are a beautiful young woman inside and out.
Don’t settle for anything less than a man who loves Jesus and who adores you and treats you with respect.
Jesus loves you.
You are precious to Jesus.
oh and homework is fun 🙂
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Smiles. 🙌
Thank you, big bro. 🤗
Aww. Thank you. 😊
Yes, I won’t. 🙂
Yes, He does. 😊
Yes. 💃
Haha. It is. 😂
Thank you for your kind comments and affirmations, bro. I appreciate it. 🤗
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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Love ❤️ you little sister
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Smiles. Love you too, big bro. 🤗😊
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🙂 🙂 🙂
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I know so many Christians who will say whatever they want and not even care. Very few say, I’m sorry Lord or I can’t believe I said that, forgive me. I don’t get it. I mess up sometimes, and when I do I ask for forgiveness.
We just need to slow down and think before we speak.
Great post and God Bless
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Hmm. Sadly, this is true. 😪
Yes. 💯 We are still work in progress and we can get there by engaging the Holy Spirit in us.
Totally. We need to just “pause and ponder”. I agree!
Thank you so much for your comments. I appreciate it. 🤗
Amen. And you too. 🙏
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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Amen and amen 🙏🏽 very encouraging, we are what He says we we, 😍
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Smiles. I am glad to know it is. 🙌🙂
Yes!!. 💃
Thank you for your comments, ma’am. 🤗😊
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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There is life and death in the tongue. A post of wisdom with great examples and a reference from the master. In anguish on the rugged cross, he blessed not cursed us. thanks for sharing
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Yes!. I affirm. 💯
May we always use it to birth life. 🙏
Smiles. Bless God. 🙌
Yes, He is such a graceful example.
You are welcome, bro. 🙂 Thank you so much for your comments. 🤗
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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your welcome, have a blessed week
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Thank you. 😊
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God’s word is our identity!! Anything less than His word is totally not for us.
This is so profound 🙌🙌♥️
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Yes dear. 💯
He is our only identity.
Smiles. 🙌🙌
Thank you so much for your comments. 🤗😊
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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Words we speak are powerful, be careful what you say!
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Yes!. Caution is needed in our spoken words. 💯
Thank you so much for your comments. 🤗
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙏🙂
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Wonderful post dear. Thanks for reminding us to talk with some filter. Often times we forget the power of our words. Thank you for this 🤗🤗
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Smiles. 🙌
Thank you so much sis. I am really glad to know it is. 🤗
Yes!.
You are welcome. 😊
I appreciate your comments. 🤗
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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Wish you the same 😊
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Thank you. ❤
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I love your anchor scripture. We read this in church last Sunday and what pinched me hard is, PEOPLE HEAR ME SPEAK and they need to be blessed by my words. wow!!
Do not let unwholesome [foul, profane, worthless, vulgar] words ever come out of your mouth, but only such speech as is good for building up others, according to the need and the occasion, so that it will be a blessing TO THOSE WHO HEAR [you speak]. Ephesians 4:29
Secondly, I love the way you have brought out the fact that people loose their identity because they define themselves based on the standards of this world which is so fleeting. Today someone will validate you and then tomorrow they don’t.
We should only find our identity in Christ and His word, Imagine desiring validation from human beings who live today and tomorrow are dead?
I will leave this two scriptures that defines me so badly maybe someone too might decide to own them.
Song of Solomon 4:7 – You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.
Psalm 46:5 – God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.
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Wow. I am glad to read this. I love the emphasized words. They need to!. This is apt!
Hmm. Thanks for pointing this out. I am loving this verse even more. 📝
Smiles. Yes!.
The World changes and people do change. It’s only God’s words that is constant. 💯
This is food for thought, indeed. 📝
Wow. I love the verses you shared. Knowing He is with us covers our flaws. And with His help and believing in His words, we can become it. 🙌
Thank you so much for your comment and all you shared, Sis. I appreciate it. 🤗😊
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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Well said! We need to speak kind words to others as well as to ourselves!
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Smiles. 🙌
Thank you so much, ma’am. 🤗😊
Yes!. We need to. 💯
Wishing you a blessed day. 🤗
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Glad to go through this from your perspective! 🙂 Our words are important!
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Smiles. Thank you, sis. 🤗😊
Yes!!. 🙂
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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Thanks little sis! The words we speak have an impact. I’m thankful God’s words can help us to overcome the negative words we have heard. I appreciate this encouraging post! ❤️❤️❤️
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You are welcome, big sis. 🤗
Yes!.
Me too. 💃 I can imagine if we didn’t have His, to counter the negative words. 😓
Aww. 😊🙌
Thank you so much for your comments. I am glad, reading this. ❤❤
Wishing you a blessed day. 🤗
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You’re welcome! I hope your week is going well.
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Yes it is. 🙂 Wishing you a great weekend, big sis. 🤗
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Thanks, same to you little sis! 🥰
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I have been thinking a lot about how to guard my heart and when to speak it lately. These are wonderful and needed references from the Bible. Thank you, dear friend ❤
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Wow. I am glad, reading your comment, ma’am. 🤗 Bless God for His words. 🙌🙌
You are welcome. ❤😊
Wishing you a blessed day. 🤗
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So good Sis! So good!🙏
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Thank you, sis. 🤗
Wishing you a blessed day. 🙂
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You too!🤗
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Thank you for this. Words are powerful, but what’s more powerful is to not respond in situations that’s going to threaten you using such language. Silence sometimes is the best way.
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You are welcome. 🤗
Yes!. Our response or reaction matters at such times. 💯
It takes one’s inner strength to choose silence and maintain calm. 👍
Thank you so much for your comments, ma’am. ❤
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The book of Proverbs has a lot to say about words. This is one of my favorites: “The right word at the right time is like precious gold set in silver” (Proverbs 25:11 CEV). I love that image! As i depend on the Holy Spirit for his inspiration and direction, my words of encouragement, wisdom, inspiration, etc. can offer golden treasure to another–and perhaps replace some of the garbage-words they’ve received elsewhere! A thoughtful, helpful post, H.C!
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Wow. I love the verse you stated too ma’am. It’s golden!. 📝
Thank you so much. 🤗
This is so apt!. Yes!.
We can serve as a healing balm to others – speaking positivity over them!.
Thank you. Glad to know it is. 😊 I appreciate your comments and the text you referenced. ❤🤗
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On words that help and build up.
Beautiful reminder for us all.
Blessings!
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Smiles. 🙌
Thank you so much. 🤗😊
Amen. And you too. ❤
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Amen on a post filled with God-inspired wisdom. Every one alive has been told lies about them selves. But we can make a conscious decision to deny those words a place to live or to define us by using the words of our Father.
Thank you, I always thoroughly enjoy and need your wisdom.
Continue to be blessed.
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Smiles. 🙌🤗
Thank you so much sis. 😊
Apt!. We have a decision to make. 💯
Aww. I am glad to read your comments. ❤
Amen. And you too, sis. 🤗
Greetings to your family. 🙂
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Thank you.
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