For a start, why should we abstain from sex as singles?
Why is it that despite the fact that chastity campaigns are increasing, the abstinence mentality is declining so rapidly? That sex has now been reduced to everything “carnal”.
So yeah let’s get back to the basics –
Why should we abstain?
Is it because our pastors or church leaders told us so? Or is it because our parents have mentioned it countless times to us, that we feel we should honor them by preserving this blessing – sex?
While I was pondering on this subject, I couldn’t help but see why we have been so caught in the web of finding it difficult to abstain.
One thing He brings to my heart is the fact that when we seek to please Him – God, we enter into His unlimited strength to uphold His vessel (His temple) – you!
But when we misplace this priority/order, and choose to abstain for every other reason, we find ourselves in the limited.
It’s only in God that we have unlimited strength to abstain. So again, what are your reasons for keeping yourself chaste?
It’s time to choose to do this for the right reason. Which should be our only reason and that is to honor God enough, with our vessels.
“You were bought with a price [purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own]. So then, honor God and bring glory to Him in your body.”
1 Corinthians 6:20 AMPC
Remember, you were bought with a price. And that price requires only one thing from you – which is to honor Him with all that you are and stand for.
Let your love for God be spelt out loud, in your dealings!
“Love GOD, your God, with your whole heart: love him with all that’s in you, love him with all you’ve got!”
Deuteronomy 6:5 MSG
Lastly, sex is a blessing and it’s time we redefine this. It’s a blessing that should be kept within the premise of “marriage”.
“Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous.”
Hebrews 13:4 AMPC
And,
“Drink waters out of your own cistern [of a pure marriage relationship], and fresh running waters out of your own well.
[Confine yourself to your own wife] let your children be for you alone, and not the children of strangers with you. Let your fountain [of human life] be blessed [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice in the wife of your youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant doe [tender, gentle, attractive]–let her bosom satisfy you at all times, and always be transported with delight in her love.”
Proverbs 5:15, 17-19 AMPC
May His word redefine our minds. And aid us in making a decision to henceforth act according to His words. Amen 🙏🏻
Blessings. 🤗
💠#HCCounsels#💠
HERRY CHIC COUNSELS 
75% of my writingshereareon sex; yet everybody love sex,most everybody afraid to write about sex-such cowards!
I love this post!
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Thank you for loving the post, Prince Welch.
Do have a great day. 🤗
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Mercy, someone once told me that if we preach the entire Bible but leave out that area that is most conflicted in our society, we are failing to “preach the whole counsel of God.” (Acts 20:27) We need to hear this more from pulpits!
One of the best articles I ever came across that reaffirms your presentation is mostly the work of George Sanchez of the Navigators. As you note, when we seek to please God, He provides the strength. I produced Sanchez’ article as a page in my blog: https://capost2k.wordpress.com/changing-your-thought-patterns/
Blessing on you, my sister.
c.a.
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I agree with what is mentioned but this is easier said than done because abstinence requires a strong will to detach from or rise above such physical desire.
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Redirection or transmutation is better …
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Only by Jesus’ power through His Holy Spirit. In the flesh we will all sin, but Christ can set us free from our “flesh” even while we still live in it. He cannot make us virgins again if we have sinned, but He can make us pure again, and able to resist the temptations.
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Hmm. I love that person’s thoughts. We need to share His word – not in parts, but wholly. 📌
Yes He does. 🙌
And this is such a blessing.
Thanks for sharing the link and for your comments. 🤗
Amen and to you too, sir. 😊
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This is such a great post! Waiting is worth it! I love your mindset about this topic and couldn’t help but think of Isaiah 40:31 while reading it. Blessings, Mercy!
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Thank you, ma’am. 😊
Smiles. Glad to know this.
Yes! – when we wait on Him, we are renewed in our strength. 🙌
Amen. And to you too, and the family. ❤
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I think it is so important to talk about topics like this. I had written something about the same topic in a post called Believers freedom.
Often any topic related to sex is usually avoided in church but I think it is so necessary.
Blessings to you Mercy 💙
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Yes, ma’am. 💯
That’s good. 😊
Can you please share the blog link?
Yes it is. And it’s time we talk more about it.
Amen, and to you too. 🤗
Do have a blessed day. 🙏
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This is such an important topic my friend. Sex is more beautiful with experienced within the bounds of the Word of God
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Thank you for affirming this, ma’am. ❤
And for sharing your thoughts on this.
Blessings to you and your family. 🤗
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Inspiring words. Read the Bible, pray every day in the name of Jesus Christ. He is the Truth 🙏
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this, sir. 🙂
His word is the truth we should uphold. 🙌
Blessings to you this day and always. 🙏
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Sex!
It’s really sad to see what our community today has become, with both young and adult robbing themselves of their glorious future at the altar of sex.
Several times, I ask myself why? How did we get this so wrong, especially with this young generations.
But just like you said Mercy, a lot of these people doesn’t really know why they should abstain, or enjoy sex in while married. While sometimes, some of the reasons we even give them are not enough to constrain them.
But, I’m sorry to say, If we have not come to a point of understanding what honouring God means (both with our body and spirit), we can continue to talk about Sex, but we might not see the change we desire.
For ye are bought with a price, therefore you have to, you must honor God with your body which belongs to him in the first place (emphasis).
Thanks for sharing sis… I’m blessed
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Smiles. The famous word! 😁
Sighs. Sadly!
Phew. It is indeed worrisome. 😓
Yes bro. And an understanding of the why is needed. 📌
Thanks for emphasizing on the verse too.
Glad to. Bless God. 🙌
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
Blessing, bro. 🤗
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SO true. Very well approached. Sex is just so casual these days. Marriage has lost it’s sanctity. The marriage bed is no longer holy. We need people to post things like these teaching us valuable lessons to keep ourselves holy and reminding us of the price that was paid.
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Thank you for affirming this and sharing your thoughts on this, Ruelha. ❤
May we live by His words. 🙌🙏
Do enjoy the rest of your day. 😊
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Amen to that, MErcy.
Have a lovely weekend!
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Amen. 😊🙌
Thank you, sis. 🤗
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I enjoyed your post. We need to hear more about this topic in the body of Christ. Thanks for sharing!
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Smiles. Glad to know this, sis. 🤗
Yes!
You are welcome, big sis. 😊
Happy mother’s day to you. ❤
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Thank you!
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I really Enjoyed the messages, more strength.
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Smiles. Thank you for your feedback, bro.
I appreciate it. Amen. 🙏
Blessings. 🤗
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U welcome
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Beautifully written. You tackled this sensitive (which shouldn’t be sensitive) topic with great insight. God speaks through you and has made you wise beyond your years. Scott
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Smiles. Thank you for your feedback, sir. 😊
And for your kind words too. 😊
Blessings to you today and always. 🙏
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I was brought up with my parents never really telling me about sex. It was a “hush” type of deal. I told my girls because I did not want them growing up like I did. I think nowadays, parents don’t really care as much. Most of them are friends with their kids at a young age, because they want to act young as well. When you have parents acting in that manner, the morals go out the window. That leads to the question, where are the morals?
God Bless. 😊
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Phew! This is happening a lot and we need this topic to be spoken about so that the generation now and upcoming can glean wisdom from Abba’s words on it. 📌
Sadly! And parents are meant to be a child’s first tutor.
Yeah. 😁
I do hope we keep our morales and redefine it alongside God’s words. 🙌
I appreciate your comments, ma’am.
Happy mother’s day. ❤
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I love that you have never hide from talking about important topics. Blessings and love from Malaysia!
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Smiles. Thank you for your kind words. 🤗
Blessings and love from Nigeria. ❤
Happy mother’s day to you. 😊
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Beautiful words of advice & encouragement / corrections for all generation . This is a topic that should be spoken of more often than necessary. Am glad I read through to the end. So much to learn from your words 😊. Write more and more 👸🙏
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Thank you for your feedback and kind words, Fredrick. 🤗
Yes! It should. But sadly, we don’t. 😓
Aww. Thank you for reading it through. 🤗
Smiles. I will, by His grace. 😊
Do take care, bro. Happy new week.
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Well said Mercy. It’s nice reading your take on this. Thanks for sharing!
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Smiles. Thank you for your kind words, sis. 😊
You are welcome. Glad to. 🤗
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What a bold article. I appreciate you being honest without shaming people. The church has to also do better in discussing sex so that people don’t go into the world for solutions.
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Thank you for your feedback, ma’am. ❤
Yes, we can do better as a church. 💯
Blessings to you and family. 🤗
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Christopher, your website is not glorifying to God and is opposed to what Mercy is presenting here. The intention of your business site appears to be only for sexual lust and objectification of women. As Peter warned Simon the magician, “You have neither part nor lot in this matter, for your heart is not right before God. Repent, therefore, of this wickedness of yours, and pray to the Lord that, if possible, the intent of your heart may be forgiven you.”
I agree in prayer that your heart may be changed and you will find true satisfaction, not from objectifying women, but in submission to the LORD of all the earth, your Creator.
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Mercy, you have done an excellent job of presenting a needed reminder that Father made us male and female and gave us a pattern in the Garden for a life of joy.
See https://capost2k.wordpress.com/2021/04/17/rated-r-the-mystery-of-marriage/ and https://capost2k.wordpress.com/2018/10/14/three-weeks-of-sex/. The latter is a four part series I did on this topic back in 2018. As you and other readers have noted, sex is beautiful in the limits of marriage as Father intended it. yours and His, c.a.
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Smiles. Thank you for affirming this, sir. 🙂
I’d check the posts. Thank you for sharing these links. 🤗
Yes – only within the premise of marriage! 💯
Greetings to the family. 😊
P.S: I read your comment to Christopher’s, I had to trash it cos I didn’t want to leave it here and people get to click on the link via my blog. I appreciate you for clearing the air on his comment too. Bless your heart, sir. 🤗🙏
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There is nothing wrong with abstaining from sex for your own self-preservation. It is a matter of self-respect and belief and I stand with that. Very well-written article, with meaning.
Hi, I am Ragazza Triste, you can also check my blog page, maybe we can be friends and learn from each other. Have a good day! 🙂
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Thank you for your comments, Ragazza.
It is nice meeting you via the blogosphere. 😊
I’m Mercy. 🤝
I’d check it out. Thanks and you too. Blessings. 🤗
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